Today I noticed something very
significant while talking to a friend. We both were talking over the phone about
the void in our life. We were talking about longing for a specific relationship
- companionship. He was sad that to share happiness and sorrow, he doesn't have
a significant other. He longs for love and compassion that a partner brings
along. I feel his pain for I am going through the same situation too. I didn't
want to feel sad because I have a lot on my plate that depresses me.
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On the other hand, I cannot ask my
friend to stop to feel that way because feelings are genuine; I think they
manifest actions and expressions more strongly. I don't know what got into me,
the next moment I heard myself pacifying him. I told him "think like this,
void or emptiness is perhaps an opportunity to create a space for someone to be
with us. And for someone to be an integral part of life, we need to understand
how it feels to be unloved, unwanted, and need to experience the pain that
emptiness brings along with it. Maybe every level of emptiness is like a
checklist ready to be ticked. Once they are done, we have space where we allow
the significant other to arrive so that both can build something beautiful
together. Afterall the foundation is laid on the experiences and feeling you
ticked off while filling the void. You know how to channelise those
insecurities and weakness to an electric ball of strength to support and light
up the lives of each other. Likeness, in some way or the other, attracts
likeness. A person experiencing tremendous pain empathises and will be there to
lend a shoulder to lean on, a hand to hold, and an embrace to secure."
After I finished sharing this
gyaan, it hit me that he was listening to me intently and the pregnant pause
was in between us. "Wow that was deep" I quipped, and we both
laughed.
With this conversation, I
understood how liberating it is to slow down. The 21-days lockdown being cooped
up indoors might make us fidgety. On a positive note, this is an opportunity to
reflect on how to push negative feelings towards a path where one can gain strength
and perform actions for a better life; filled with gratitude. I am happy I can think this way while having negative emotions at abundance at my disposal.
That's a completely new perspective :)
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